There was an interesting article the other day at Medium.com entitled “What (Else) Can Men Do? Grow the Fuck Up.” The article was shared pretty widely, front paging on Reddit and Digg. As a man the title of the article speaks directly to me, so I figured I would click through and read it. I was very disappointed by what I found.
[FN] Before I get into it, a couple basics for those who would try to disregard the content of this response. I am not a “Men’s Rights Activist” (MRA). Although I am a middle-class white male (yes, my life has been exceedingly easy) I gew up in New York City, went to a liberal arts college, and obtained a graduate degree from a school in New York City. I did theater. I voted for Obama. As far as big scary men go, I am about as liberal as you can get.
Feminists have, for many years, used the internet as a great outlet to get their message out, to deconstruct, to forward dialogue. This use of the internet in this way and to forward these purposes has been, by and large, a wonderful thing, particularly for females who might not otherwise ordinarily have a loud enough voice in what remains (admittedly) a patriarchal society (not all women are using it well, of course, but with any population you’re going to have those who excel and those who do not; tolerating the 90% is worth it for the 10% that is brilliant). The internet allows for these things to grow and be communicated organically.
However after several years of this, a new pattern has emerged of men on the internet tearing other men to pieces. Case in point, is “What (Else) Can Men Do? Grow the Fuck Up.”